HELP! I Need to Make A Decision!

You know when you try on a new outfit and it just “feels right”?  You look good, you feel good, and there’s a voice inside your head that says, “This is the one.” You don’t have to think about it, you just know!  This feeling is a tool you have at your fingertips and in your heart every single day!

The feeling I’m describing is known as “trusting your gut.” There’s a reaction that takes place deep in your body that brings a sense of comfort, ease, and overall feeling of wellbeing. This is your body’s way of doing its job by providing us with the answers we seek if we just stay still enough to listen.

When should you listen to your gut?

  • When you need to make a decision.
  • When you’re in an uncomfortable situation.
  • When you sense a situation could jeopardize your safety or the safety of others.
  • When you feel like someone is being dishonest with you.
  • When you’re unsure if you should trust someone.
  • When answering questions on a test or quiz.

Practice tuning in:

  • Take a deep breath and close your eyes.
  • Pay attention to the signals your body is giving you when you go over the choices in your mind. Notice if your body feels differently when you think about each choice. For instance, you may experience an uneasy feeling in your stomach when thinking of one choice versus a lighter feeling when thinking of the other choice.
  • List all the possible solutions to your dilemma on paper or your computer. Sometimes we can get some clarity when we see our options in writing.

Allow your gut to point you in the right direction. Don’t ignore the voice in your head. It’s there for a reason. The following are some tips to help you stay on track:

Allow your gut to point you in the right direction. Don’t ignore the voice in your head. It’s there for a reason. The following are some tips to help you stay on track:

  • Plan Ahead-Thinking through scenarios and options ahead of time is helpful when you are in an emotional situation.
  • Use Your Voice-Don’t be afraid to say things like, “I’m ready to leave,” “That won’t work for me,” or “Let’s catch up another time.”
  • Practice-Start with small decisions. The more difficult choices won’t feels as tough if you’ve started small. You’ll go into automatic pilot and make the right decision with confidence without second-guessing yourself.
  • Pay Attention To Your Body’s Signals-Get familiar with the “I made the right choice” feeling.
  • Code Word-Create a family code that can be used when reaching out to a parent or guardian when you want or need to be removed from a situation. No explanations are necessary. The trusted people in your life who know the code will reach out to help you, no questions asked.

Sometimes we get caught up thinking that we need the opinion of others to help us make healthy decisions. What we need to remember is that often, the answers are right inside of us. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t reach out to those you trust when you are worried or in trouble. Part of becoming mature is coming to the understanding that sometimes we do need the help of a more experienced person or a professional. But guess what?  Your gut will tell you that too!

“Trust your intuition. If it feels wrong, it probably is.” -Doe Zantamata

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